One of the saddest outcomes post-divorce can be that kids have a hard time discerning truth from untruth. These kids can get different messages from mom and dad. It’s hard for them to know what’s true. They can grow up uncertain of what’s real, what they can really believe, and who they can really believe. They can become young adults uncertain about many things and with trust issues.
As a stepmom I pray often for truth to be revealed. Truth about the character of all involved, truth about what really occurred in various situations, ability for my stepkids to discern truth from intentional (or unintentional) falsehood, truth about healthy marriage, truth about healthy parenting. And of course for my stepkids to love and respect all involved parents (warts and all).
I believe stepmoms are called to do godly work in many ways. First to model healthy marriages by respecting her husband (what a gift to demonstrate this for kids!). Secondly to love the unloveable, not just the easy. Thirdly to be selfless (if stepmotherhood isn’t a lesson in acting on everyone else’s best interest and not solely her own, I’m not sure what is!). Additionally, stepmoms can help kids by being beacons of truth.
I Cor 13:6 says “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” (NIV)
I John 3:18 says “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” (NIV)
By walking in truth, sharing God’s truth, modeling truth about your character and your husband’s character, modeling truth about what your family stands for…and consistently doing so will help your stepkids see and recognize truth. It may take awhile but God promises when we walk in His will, all things (not just some things) work together for good (Romand 8:28). And stepmom – you are here to do some good!
Today I’m thankful that God tells us to love on others by actions and TRUTH.
What are you thankful for?