I think I have been blogging for one year now! How time flies.
In my journey as a stepmom, I have found it helpful to focus on what I can be thankful for, rather than the stressors in blended family life. And maybe by blogging about it, it’s sending some positivity into the universe. God knows stepmoms need any little crumbs of positivity they can get!
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Each year at Valentine’s Day I take the opportunity to write a love note to each of my stepkids. I suppose this originated because it was not well-received for me to express love to them, especially early on. I was not the mom, not the dad…so what place did I have to express such things to them? It was probably awkward for all of us. Valentine’s Day seemed like the perfect excuse to squeeze this in. After all, the whole world expresses love and gives treats on Valentine’s Day.
So each year I spend some time thinking about each kiddo as Valentine’s Day approaches. I am thoughtful about what I admire about each one, what is special about each kid, and how wonderfully God has created each one. I put this in a letter for each kiddo. I hope that this sticks in a little corner of each kid’s heart & mind. I hope it helps each one grow up healthy. I hope it cements the idea that one more person in their life thinks they are amazing human beings and loves them (regardless of the stress and dynamics of blending families). That independent of that whole messiness…they are wonderful, and that is the bottom line.
Philippians 4:8 (NIV): “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Today I am thankful that I can see that truth even in the messiness.
What are you thankful for?