Our son is four and he’s at the age when he’s learning to share. He loves sharing his toys with his sister and teaching her about taking turns.
Tonight I came home and saw that my husband and son were snuggling in our giant bean bag chair. They were having a great time watching a movie, eating popcorn and ice cream too! When I tried to horn in on their boy time, my husband jokingly objected.
My husband: “No, you can’t join us. I’m snuggling with him, this is OUR time!”
My son: “Daddy, share!”
Me: “Daddy did share, honey. He shared this movie with you, the ice cream and the popcorn. You guys had a great time sharing all of this.”
My son: “no Mommy, I mean Daddy should share ME with you.”
And of course we assured him that we would. He’s our “ours baby” and we definitely share him. But part of me couldn’t help but wonder what this scenario is like for stepkids. How often must they wish for their parents to share them more nicely? How often do they feel they have to choose one parent over the other? And how well can they really experience the joy of having their parents share in their lives when their parents are not in the same house or if they can’t get along for five minutes?
And so I stepped out of my Me-ness and remembered what their experience might be like, or should I say imagined what at least a sliver of what their experience might be like.
Today I’m thankful for the lessons I learn through being a stepmom, those of empathy and remaining tenderhearted in a fallen world.
Romans 12:15b (NIV) “…mourn with those who mourn.”
Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV) “ And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”
What are you thankful for today?