We stepmoms have a lot to navigate. We have a lot of uncertainty and questions.
Am I supposed to feel love for my stepkids? How much love and when does this happen? Is it a different love than I have for other people? Is that ok? And if they don’t even like me, am I still supposed to love them?
Am I supposed to be nice/forgiving/tolerant to my husband’s ex wife even though she has wronged us (and maybe continues to do so)?
Is it normal to feel jealous when my husband spends time with his kids?
Or maybe: The fur is still flying, the battle lines are drawn, it’s cat-and-dog around here…and as a stepmom you’re not sure of your role.
In Philippians 2:13 (NLT), we learn: “For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.”
This is huge! This means I don’t have to do this on my own. I have a big God who is bigger than any problem, who actually helps me and empowers me to be the kind of wife, mom, and stepmom I am meant to be. He is working in me.
Today I am thankful that God is growing me.
What are you thankful for?
The thankful stepmom 
I am very thankful for God for coming into my life, for bringing my husband and my step kids into my life. It’s not always easy and I’ve wrestled with some of the same questions as you but at the same time I know that God had a plan when He brought me into this situation and He has a plan to see me through it. I know God is working in your life too. God bless.
thanks so much for your encouraging words. my hope is that this blog is a place where stepmoms can encourage each other. Sorry it took me so long to respond. guilty of enjoying my family life so much that I didn’t make room for blogging! I love to hear that you know God has good plans for you and placed you just where you could be a blessing to others, and that God sustains you! Right on, sister stepmom! God bless you too!